Four Yellow Plates Consciousness

I'm going to re-post this entry because it has become an up-front focus for me this year. Maybe I'll have enough moxie to carry a narrative through the process as it unfolds this year. Meanwhile, enjoy this post.

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Four Yellow Plates Consciousness

Poppy died yesterday. Poppy was my best friend's father. I sat by his bedside for hours on end, watching him breathe, holding his hand, loving him. And thinking thoughts that roved across all my experience and touched on a whole encyclopedia's worth of subjects. My thinking always returned from these travels to alight on the subject of mortality.

Poppy is dying. I am alive. Friend Veronica is pregnant. A baby begins. This baby will be born and live and die and look, the cycle. I am (probably) more than halfway through my allotted cycle. Sitting with Poppy, I bring out the magnifying glass to examine my cycle.

I will see my life's total by looking at current events, situations, challenges, and triumphs. Whew! This is SO appropriate a pensee for the last week of this year, the last week of this decade.

Twice a year, at the turn of the year and roughly six months after, on my birthday, I do what I call Janus work. Janus was the Roman god of the gateway. He had two faces, one in front and one in back, so that while guarding the gates, he could see who was coming and who was leaving. The Janus work looks back, looks around and then looks forward.

Looking back consists solely of counting wins, triumphs, and times I did it right. Love to do that. Looking around attempts to be honest, to see clearly and to banish ostrich tendencies. The ostrich is a very powerful gene in my family. We try very hard not to see those things that are difficult to look at. I will take a moment to describe what looking forward consists of in Janus work, and then I will return to the present and take a look around.

Looking forward has a two-pronged approach. First, someone once asked Mark Twain (I think it was), who was a very prolific writer, how he managed to turn out such a volume of work. His method was to write a minimum of 1,000 words a day. A thousand words is approximately three handwritten pages. A year's worth of handwritten pages could complete a novel. Just keep plugging away. Have a daily must, a daily minimum, and things get done. I have a list of daily musts, only five of them, which comprise my thousand word equivalent. Each year I review, refine, add to, and edit out this list. It serves me.

Second, I craft some focuses (foci?) for the year. These are not resolutions; they are very like a journey. Setting out from Miami, the most basic directions to Boise, for instance, call for going north. Further refinements on reaching the Georgia border, would change the basic heading to northwest. In the beginning I don't need the street by street (although the Garmin thinks I do), but as I get farther down the road, the specifics of each highway, beltway, etc., become more important.

This particluar rant is going to be about my first focus for 2010, "FOCUS ON - Four Yellow Plates Consciousness." My first direction for this focus needs to be a definition of what FYPC means to me. I heard a story about a Buddhist woman who was perfectly happy and satisfied with her four yellow plates.

Come to a full stop.

In the Depression my mother worked in Macy's fine china department. She had no money, was paid little, but developed an exquisite sense of value in china. And she yearned for, almost lusted after, fine china. Over the years, with a more abundant pocketbook and opportunity to travel, she acquired some truly lovely china. Four yellow plates? Satisfied? Happy with? Uh uh. Don't think this didn't rub off on me.

And I have this acquisition syndrome in areas other than plates; books, music tapes and CDs, furniture, craft supplies, textiles, linens and fabrics, and above all, information. My lust for information is magnified by having been born with a Gemini sun. All Geminis could well have the middle name, "Curiosity". Curiosity is my driving force. I want to know everything.

I read (or skim) up to 10 books a week (thank you, Miami-Dade Public Library). I watch 60 Minutes, 20/20, Dateline, Animal Planet, Discovery Channel, Keith Olberman, Rachel Maddow, Food TV, etc., etc. I prowl Wikipedia and Google and Bing. I read approximately 20 magazines a month. Sheesh! And because I am now the oldest I have ever been and am experiencing "senior moments" of forgetfulness regularly, I cut articles and stow them away in files and piles lest I forget.

No wonder the notion of a pairing a Four Yellow Plates Consciousness with a feeling of satisfaction has brought me to a screeching halt.

Would I be satisfied with four? Of anything? No. Could I pursue a "satisfied with four" consciousness? Hmmm. I could nibble around the edges. What form would "nibble around the edges" take?

That is a Focus for this year. Let me start with examining what lares and penates exist. Then assessing each one (plate, paint brush, piece of paper) for its satisfaction-producing keepability. Third, assign each kept item a permanent place in my house (we know this from all the self-help books on organization). Keep, give, toss, etc. Fourth, Look deeply at my process while step three is going on. My emotional burden will weigh in for every decision. Understanding my emotionals thingie will allow me to tweak my responses, perhaps to re-form them in the general direction of satisfaction with four. I have no quantitative goal here. I don't need to get down to , say, three shelves of books, or two file drawers, or a service fo eight and no more. I do need to find a satisfying qualitative goal. Again, returning to the self-help books (do read Julia Morgenstern on this), do I love it? Does it make me happy? Does it fit who I am now, or does it dredge up a personage I was in the past. Etc.

On this blog, I intend to document my year of working towards a Four Yellow Plates Consciousness, paring down my posessions and my emotional burden at the same time. The end product? Satisfaction.

Finding Myself While Losing the Stuff

So, I had an epiphany, something I read that Dr. Oz said. So I dragged my recliner to the curb, and replaced it with a dining chair and a stair stepper. THIS IS A REAL CHANGE!!!

Insight - The recliner was a "safe" place. I didn't know that. I knew my car was a safe place. My house as a whole is a safe place. The two locations where I sit to write (one upstairs, one down are safe places. My bed is a safe place, of course.

But the chair. From a second-hand store? Orange? (Ugh!) Raggedy, frayed, dog chewed, rump-sprung? Yup! One of the safest places in the house. Who knew?

The dining chair has a long way to go to feel safe. Just a fact of life. The stair-stepper is WAY out of my comfort zone.

I will observe, over time, to see how I can deal with this one.

Finding Myself in the Process

In this quest for Four Yellow Plates Consciousness, I have been getting rid of paper. I finally opened the file drawers that hold personal development material. When I first came into contact with coaching, it was a revelation. I was looking for the perfect career.

Back story - In the seventies I found out about the cathartic and energizing relief that comes from good gestalt therapy work. So I went to college to learn how to do that. Ten years later I had a BA in clinical psychology. Needing a license and unwilling to put in the time for a doctorate, I went to grad school for social work. Big problem. Social work deals with "sick" people. I didn't want to work with "sick" people.

Then, epiphany. CBS made a "magazine" story about a man who lived in a palace of an RV, went wherever he wanted to go, and "coached" people via phone. Thomas Leonard. These coachees then became successful. Eureka! Not-sick people. Hooray! I wanted it.

I bought Thomas's book, The Portable Coach. I took his classes. I joined his new website, Coachville. I thrived on the excitement. Just think, a personal development method that was desined to move along "well" people.

Combining my need to know, your basic Gemini curiosity and an inbred feeling of intellectual inferiority, e.g., "I don't know enough," "I don't know as much as the 'real' people," ad nauseum.

So, I read. Mostly internet. And needing to "own" the info, I printed it out. Sorted, organized and filed it. And never looked at it again. Forgot it was there except as a nagging future onus to read again. And make some "use" of it. Four large file drawers full. Sheesh! I was still hosting this trove of printed matter.

Do you know - this week I have gone through almost all of it, and thrown out 90% of what I found. Bonus, I found a lot of stuff I wrote in the seventies and early eighties that I thought was lost forever. I will type it into a digital medium (can you imagine that this good stuff was written before I had access to a computer?) And post a link here when it is done.

Here's what I am learning about myself doing this task.

• Most of what I thought I didn't know I do know
• Last year's treasure is this year's landfill (or recycling)
• I am just as happy doing drive-by coaching instead of hanging out a shingle
• A trip to the dumpster feels as good as a big BM.

Another FYP accomplished

I had a motley collection of drinking glasses, probably more than I needed to serve my needs. In the cupboard above the refrigerator are six Baccarat goblets and six Ernst & Young tumblers. I cherish these and I use them when dining indoors. In the cupboard above the sink were one glass glass from Publix, one glass glass souvenir of an Oprah seminar, and various scratched, dinged and mismatched plastic tumblers. No where near serving my needs in the happy and satisfied department

The solution: keeping the Baccarat and the old fashioneds, I banished all other drinking glasses to the thrift shop box, and bought six new plastic (patio-safe) colored glasses at the supermarket. Sufficient? Yes. Happy? Yes. Satisfied? Yes. And one square foot of Four Yellow Plates Consciousness has been accomplished.

This is a new useful yardstick for examining the nature of and accomplishing Four Yellow Plates Consciousness. Whatever I am holding up to this standard has to be enough, to be beautiful, and to be functional, in order to meet the criteria set by four, yellow, and plates.

Four Yellow Plates Consciousness

Poppy died yesterday. Poppy was my best friend's father. I sat by his bedside for hours on end, watching him breathe, holding his hand, loving him. And thinking thoughts that roved across all my experience and touched on a whole encyclopedia's worth of subjects. My thinking always returned from these travels to alight on the subject of mortality.

Poppy is dying. I am alive. Friend Veronica is pregnant. A baby begins. This baby will be born and live and die and look, the cycle. I am (probably) more than halfway through my allotted cycle. Sitting with Poppy, I bring out the magnifying glass to examine my cycle.

I will see my life's total by looking at current events, situations, challenges, and triumphs. Whew! This is SO appropriate a pensee for the last week of this year, the last week of this decade.

Twice a year, at the turn of the year and roughly six months after, on my birthday, I do what I call Janus work. Janus was the Roman god of the gateway. He had two faces, one in front and one in back, so that while guarding the gates, he could see who was coming and who was leaving. The Janus work looks back, looks around and then looks forward.

Looking back consists solely of counting wins, triumphs, and times I did it right. Love to do that. Looking around attempts to be honest, to see clearly and to banish ostrich tendencies. The ostrich is a very powerful gene in my family. We try very hard not to see those things that are difficult to look at. I will take a moment to describe what looking forward consists of in Janus work, and then I will return to the present and take a look around.

Looking forward has a two-pronged approach. First, someone once asked Mark Twain (I think it was), who was a very prolific writer, how he managed to turn out such a volume of work. His method was to write a minimum of 1,000 words a day. A thousand words is approximately three handwritten pages. A year's worth of handwritten pages could complete a novel. Just keep plugging away. Have a daily must, a daily minimum, and things get done. I have a list of daily musts, only five of them, which comprise my thousand word equivalent. Each year I review, refine, add to, and edit out this list. It serves me.

Second, I craft some focuses (foci?) for the year. These are not resolutions; they are very like a journey. Setting out from Miami, the most basic directions to Boise, for instance, call for going north. Further refinements on reaching the Georgia border, would change the basic heading to northwest. In the beginning I don't need the street by street (although the Garmin thinks I do), but as I get farther down the road, the specifics of each highway, beltway, etc., become more important.

This particluar rant is going to be about my first focus for 2010, "FOCUS ON - Four Yellow Plates Consciousness." My first direction for this focus needs to be a definition of what FYPC means to me. I heard a story about a Buddhist woman who was perfectly happy and satisfied with her four yellow plates.

Come to a full stop.

In the Depression my mother worked in Macy's fine china department. She had no money, was paid little, but developed an exquisite sense of value in china. And she yearned for, almost lusted after, fine china. Over the years, with a more abundant pocketbook and opportunity to travel, she acquired some truly lovely china. Four yellow plates? Satisfied? Happy with? Uh uh. Don't think this didn't rub off on me.

And I have this acquisition syndrome in areas other than plates; books, music tapes and CDs, furniture, craft supplies, textiles, linens and fabrics, and above all, information. My lust for information is magnified by having been born with a Gemini sun. All Geminis could well have the middle name, "Curiosity". Curiosity is my driving force. I want to know everything.

I read (or skim) up to 10 books a week (thank you, Miami-Dade Public Library). I watch 60 Minutes, 20/20, Dateline, Animal Planet, Discovery Channel, Keith Olberman, Rachel Maddow, Food TV, etc., etc. I prowl Wikipedia and Google and Bing. I read approximately 20 magazines a month. Sheesh! And because I am now the oldest I have ever been and am experiencing "senior moments" of forgetfulness regularly, I cut articles and stow them away in files and piles lest I forget.

No wonder the notion of a pairing a Four Yellow Plates Consciousness with a feeling of satisfaction has brought me to a screeching halt.

Would I be satisfied with four? Of anything? No. Could I pursue a "satisfied with four" consciousness? Hmmm. I could nibble around the edges. What form would "nibble around the edges" take?

That is a Focus for this year. Let me start with examining what lares and penates exist. Then assessing each one (plate, paint brush, piece of paper) for its satisfaction-producing keepability. Third, assign each kept item a permanent place in my house (we know this from all the self-help books on organization). Keep, give, toss, etc. Fourth, Look deeply at my process while step three is going on. My emotional burden will weigh in for every decision. Understanding my emotionals thingie will allow me to tweak my responses, perhaps to re-form them in the general direction of satisfaction with four. I have no quantitative goal here. I don't need to get down to , say, three shelves of books, or two file drawers, or a service fo eight and no more. I do need to find a satisfying qualitative goal. Again, returning to the self-help books (do read Julia Morgenstern on this), do I love it? Does it make me happy? Does it fit who I am now, or does it dredge up a personage I was in the past. Etc.

On this blog, I intend to document my year of working towards a Four Yellow Plates Consciousness, paring down my posessions and my emotional burden at the same time. The end product? Satisfaction.